Change

“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” -Mahatma Gandhi

Well, it has been a while since my last blog post.  Sorry, everyone.  We’ve been busy and I’ve been trying to process the things we are learning.  A lot has happened and there have been some changes here in Korea. I can’t catch up on everything in one post.  But I’ll talk about a few things.

First, fall changed to winter, which actually is not a whole lot different from Maryland winters.  In fact, my home in Maryland may have gotten more snow than I got in Daejeon. Then spring began, starting with the blooming of beautiful cherry blossoms.

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There were also changes at the community center where I work.  A new school year started, so all the older middle school students that I got to know (because their English was pretty good) graduated to high school. ☹ The “go-to” game that I play with the kids changed from chess, to Rummikub, to me watching them play with Pokemon cards, to One Card (similar to Uno).

Probably the most upsetting change is that my housemates have gotten used to my terrible pun jokes and now just ignore them.

On the national level, the Korean president was officially impeached and finally arrested.  In addition, the Seweol ferry, a ferry that sank off the coast of Korea three years ago due to unknown causes and resulted in the deaths of about 300 passengers, was finally excavated from the ocean for investigation.  There are still nine passengers missing from that event.  This past Easter Sunday, I attended a Christian memorial service to remember the victims and pray for healing.

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The concept of change is complicated.  Whether it is positive or negative, change can still be difficult.  Further, trying to create change can be even more difficult.  But it also can be inspiring.  Here is a devotion reflection I did for the last day in Lent, also known as the day after Good Friday and before Easter.  The topic of the devotion was despair.  But I promise I’ll connect it to change.

“The author of the devotional described how it is awkward to see others in despair.  We don’t know what to say or how to comfort someone who has suffered greatly.  And he says that sometimes we just have to be present for that person, and wait and pray despair is turned into hope.

I think a good example of people overcoming despair and turning it into hope is the Korean comfort women.  These women were forced into slavery during the Japanese occupation of Korea from 1910 to 1945.  After suffering such intense horrors and tragedies, they easily could have lost hope.  They could have given into their despair.  But they didn’t allow their tragic experience to define them.  Instead, they used it to connect with other women who suffered similar experiences in other countries and to increase awareness about wartime violence against women across the world.  They changed their despair into hope for acknowledgement from the Japanese government and hope for ending violence against women.  Their story is a miracle.

We participate in that story by visiting the museums they’ve built, attending the protests they organize, and wearing butterfly pins to keep the memory of their experiences alive.  By doing so, we become a part of their hope.”

Happy Easter.

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People, Presidents, and Prayer

“Ask not what your country can do for you, but for what you can do for your country.”

-President John F. Kennedy

On Sunday, November 6th I had a discussion with one of my Korean friends about the current political situation in South Korea.  In short, it was discovered that the president (Park Geun-Hye) was sharing drafts of her speeches with a particular mentor for “suggestions,” as well as countless documents on classified information such as inner cabinet working and national security briefings among others.  Further, she only delivered the final version of these speeches, which included her mentor’s edits, so she had influence over the president’s policies and appointments.  This has fed people’s suspicions that she is so incompetent, she cannot do anything on her own, including public speaking.  Further complicating things, is the fact that the mentor is the daughter of a Christian/Shaman/Buddhist cult founder, and a “priestess” herself.  In addition, there is clear financial corruption in the president’s administration, which is connected to the mentor friend.

I asked my friend about his perspective on the matter.  This is his answer, albeit paraphrased: “Our president cannot do many things on her own.  I thought puppet presidents were a thing of the past.  If South Korea was a developing country, I could understand how having a puppet a president could be possible.   But South Korea is a developed country and we are in the 21st century.”  I could sense his disappointment, frustration, and embarrassment at the whole ordeal.  It made me wonder, what does this mean for our society?  Even developed countries experience political issues.  Maybe modern society hasn’t progressed as far we like to believe.

After we exhausted that topic, he asked if we could talk about something less serious.  So we talked about movies.  We even made a list of films we will watch together.  First up, The Bridget Jones Diary (his choice, I don’t like romantic comedies).  It must be a theme of this year.  The only other things we have watched in our house are a Korean romantic drama and Pride and Prejudice.  Both are surprisingly entertaining.

That’s where this blog post originally ended.

Then on Tuesday, November 8th, Donald Trump was elected president of the United States.  What surprised me was not only his victory, but the fact the he won almost every swing state.  His victory reminds of an issue that we talk about regularly in the YAV program:  we cannot think of things as isolated, unfortunate incidents.  Instead, we should think about “of what is this an instance.”  We should not see individual events as problematic, but rather think about how they are an example of larger societal issues.  This perspective applies to issues of gender, race, economic welfare, and social justice.  And it applies to politics too.

In this case, there was a clear divide between certain demographics of the United States’ population.  Certain people, in fact many people, are tired of the “same-old” politics.  They want change.  And they felt Donald Trump best represented them because he was the outsider in the entire election.  Even though as a wealthy businessman, he may not have that much in common with many of them.

I am not shaming anyone for voting the way they did.  Actually, I realized that I don’t know many people who vocally supported Trump.  But maybe that is indicative of the problem.  I am from an urban, middle class family.   I am openly liberal, at least on social issues. Many of my friends are like-minded and from similar backgrounds.  So even if one of them did support Donald Trump, they wouldn’t feel comfortable sharing it amongst our circle of friends.

Further, maybe I have been blind to the plight of fellow Americans in other parts of the country.  As a YAV, I live in a house with four other American volunteers.  Though we are from different parts of the country, we all are college educated and committed to our work in Korea.  We also share similar political views. Yet, even in our small community we have communication issues.  Sometimes people feel misunderstood or misinterpreted.  This can cause them to feel alone.  And we have to work out those issues through dialogue and clear communication.  It’s not easy.  We don’t always succeed.   Maybe these communication issues occur in our larger society as well.

So, I ask my fellow Americans: It is the 21st century.  Clearly, not all of us are on the same page.  Some people feel marginalized and alone.  And in the election, their “champion” won: Donald Trump.  Because like his supporters, he was the outsider amidst the status quo.  What does this say about our society?

Further, in comparing political situations of South Korea and the United States, it is evident that distrust of the political establishment is a common theme, even in developed countries.  (The Brexit situation could be another example as well).

Regardless of what is to come, I pray for South Korea. I pray for the United States.  I pray for better dialogues and understandings between people.  I pray that people feel they have a voice in their political system and that their voices are heard.

And I pray that Bridget Jones Diary is as entertaining as everyone says.

 

Always a Student

“Teaching is not about information.  It’s about having an honest, intellectual relationship with your students.”  -Paul Lockhart

Every week, Monday through Wednesday, I work in the children’s center of a welfare community center for about 3 hours.  I mainly work with elementary and middle school students. I thought I would be asked to teach English, like some of my fellow volunteers do at their sites.  But instead I was told, “If you speak English, speak very slowly……actually maybe don’t speak English at all.  Focus on making relationships with the children and improving your Korean.”  So I am to become friends with the kids, but still referred to as 선생님 (seon-sehng-nim) or “teacher”, like the other staff.

Initially, I thought these somewhat vague instructions might bother me.  But I have come to really appreciate the simple instruction “make relationships.”  Because I am not a teacher, I don’t feel pressured to make sure the children learn anything specific.  For lack of a better phrase, it allows me to simply “be.”  I can play with the kids, help grade homework, or simply watch and observe their interactions.  But oddly enough, some of the kids really like using the limited English they do know around me.  The phrases “Hello!”, “I am good!”, and “Yummy!” are quiet popular.

During my first few weeks, there have been some very memorable moments with the kids.   A few of the boys like for me to play chess with them.  So I play a lot of chess.  Though they don’t always follow the rules of the game…

In one game, I played against one boy while another watched.  The boy watching was telling me where to move my pieces.  I almost always followed his advice, and if I ever disagreed agreed with his advice, I explained why.  About halfway through the game, I pointed at him and called him 선생님 and called myself 학생 (hak-sehng) or “student.”  It seemed appropriate, since he was calling most of our plays. He looked at me with a puzzled expression, then he smiled and laughed.

Another day, I heard the boys talking about a subject very dear to my heart: Pokémon (it’s a series of cartoons, video games, and a card game about catching monsters and using them to battle).  I didn’t know exactly what they were saying, but I still immediately joined the conversation.  The boys began naming Pokémon in Korean to see if I recognized the names.  However, I quickly realized that only some of the English Pokémon names sound similar to the Korean ones.  So we used my phone to look up any Pokémon that the kids mentioned.  This was an awesome bonding moment for me and the boys.  Unfortunately, after 15 minutes, one of the other teachers came over to me.  She said the kids are not allowed to use phones until a certain time in the day. So my phone went back into my pocket. But the boys just kept asking me Pokémon names even if we couldn’t look them up on my phone. Once we exhausted that topic, we named characters from the popular Japanese cartoon One Piece (thankfully all the names sound the same in English and Korean).

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A third moment was when I asked an elementary school girl if she was reading a book.  But she interpreted it as me saying that I wanted to read a book to her.  So she pulled a kids book of the shelf for me to read out loud.  Two important context notes: 1) Since my Korean vocabulary is limited, I had to read the whole book syllable-by-syllable, and 2) the book is about a piece of dog poop that gets lonely, makes friends with a rock, and later becomes part of the earth and grows into a flower.  It’s actually a beautiful story with a deep message.  It’s also comical when read by an incompetent, non-native Korean speaker surrounded by middle school girls who laugh every time the word for poop is spoken.  But the girls were great teachers.  They were patient with my slow reading speed.  And any time I incorrectly pronounced a word, they corrected me and had me read the sentence again.

 

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I guess the moral of these stories is that certain things are universally entertaining, including chess, Pokémon, and poop. And that no matter what your title is, you are always a 학생 (student).

The Power of Rice and Worship

“I like rice.  Rice is great if you’re hungry and want two thousand of something.”

-Mitch Hedberg

Over the first few weeks I have been in Korea, there have been many funny and also educational moments.  Our first day in Korea we went out for lunch with the pastors of the church at the university where I live.  It was our first real Korean meal.  And it was delicious!

During the meal, one of the pastors noticed I hadn’t finished my bowl of rice.  Knowing I couldn’t understand Korean, he pointed at the rice, then hit his stomach with his fist, flexed his arms, and proclaimed “밥심!!” (pap sim).  This phrase translates to “Rice power!”  Of course, I finished my bowl of rice after such a profound statement.

After spending a little more time in Korea, I realized that I really like rice.  Growing up I never cared for it unless it had soy sauce with it.  But the rice in Korea is cooked so that it has flavor and sticks together, making it easier to pick up with chopsticks.  I’ve also spent time thinking about the American cartoon character known as Pop Eye, who got his strength and muscle power from eating spinach.  If there was a Korean equivalent, the character would definitely draw his strength from rice.  Maybe he would be called “Pap-sim Man”?  Or maybe he could also eat kimchi and then turn red and breathe fire…But I digress.

We also started our Korean language class.  The course is taught almost entirely in Korean because the students are from different countries such as the US, China, and Mongolia.  The first few days were hard but as we have expanded our vocabulary, our understanding of the language has improved.  I can almost follow along with slow hymns in church!

Finally, we started our Sunday worship and youth groups as well.  Each Sunday, I attend the beginning of the worship service and then leave to help with the middle school and high school youth group.  Not much has happened yet, but I will post about it once things really get rolling.  After the service, we eat lunch.  We also found out about a contemporary worship service in the afternoon that some of our university friends attend.  The music is very good – bass, drums, and quite a few passionate college students singing. The sermon is done in a slightly different style and by a different pastor than the traditional service.  Even though we, the Americans, can’t understand most of what people are saying, it is still spiritually empowering.

I find this very funny. Honestly, I like church. But in the US you could not get me to attend two church services in the same day (and those services would be in a language I completely understand).  Yet here I am in Korea attending two services almost every Sunday when I have no idea what is going on.  And I really enjoy it.  Maybe there’s something in the rice that gives me heightened spiritual awareness…and if not, the rice (along with kimchi, bulgogi, and some good vegetables) fill us physically while these worship services fill us spiritually.

Orientation

“It’s nice that you are here.  But we don’t need you.”

-Young Adult Volunteer Coordinator reflecting on his own YAV experience

Last week, we had a well-organized orientation that challenged us to start thinking about our work for the year.  The quote above was from our program coordinator who reminded us that most of our sites don’t “need” us.  We are not doing our work to save the world, nor can we do so in one year. But we are serving to help learn and to be served by those around us. We also discussed social justice issues such as racism and our personal roles in aiding or confronting those issues.  For international YAVS, we also discussed our privilege as (mostly white) Americans in a foreign country.

One particular exercise had all of the volunteers split into two groups, volunteers who identify as white and volunteers who identify as people of color.  Being a bi-racial person of privilege, I was torn about which group to join.  I don’t face the challenges and struggles that many people of color deal with, but I also do not identify as only white.  So I joined the persons of color group.  I knew I made the right choice when we discussed how people of color have many different backgrounds, and are often mis-identified by others.  You can’t put someone in a box solely based on the color of their skin.  It was helpful to know that other people face this stereotyping issue.

However, I also noticed that I was the only male in that group.  So I asked staff members if I was in fact the only male of color.  They responded that I was not, there were others.  However, those individuals chose to go with the volunteers who identified as white, and their decision should be respected.

Later in the week, an announcement was made about starting an affinity group for white males.  The group’s purpose was to discuss how white males can (1) recognize the privilege given to them by society and (2) not allow that privilege to push other racial groups out of conversations and decisions.  Being a bi-racial person of privilege who partially identifies as white, I attended.  When I first walked into the room, I think some people were surprised to see me there, since I had not joined the group of volunteers who identify as white the day before.  The first time I spoke, I gave an explanation of my racial background and acknowledged my privilege.  I have every need to be held accountable to not use or allow my privilege to push other racial groups out of conversations. I knew I made the right choice when we discussed how hard it is to not fall into the roles that society has laid out for us, such as dominating conversations and always being “in charge.”  Even in attempts to be inclusive by inviting other racial/ethnic groups to the table to discuss racial matters, we fail to recognize our privilege.  True equality and true respect means that we allow people of other racial groups to set the table and invite us into the conversation.  It was helpful to know that other white males recognize their privilege and are trying to confront it in their own lives as a first step in addressing racial issues.

As I begin my year in Korea, these topics play in the back of my mind.  How does my privilege as an American manifest itself in ways that I do not recognize?  How does it change the way people interact with me?  And as a person with Asian features, how do Koreans react to me differently than other Americans?  These questions tie in to the quote at the beginning of this post.  Through this orientation, all of us YAVs recognize our privilege regardless of race.  We also know that we are not “needed” to improve the communities we serve.  But maybe we need these communities, and the opportunities this year presents to us, to improve our own understandings of ourselves.

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My small group from orientation. A supportive group of people serving all over the world.

There’s no place like Pittsburgh

“We live in an imperfect world that doesn’t accept imperfect people”

-my co-worker quoting someone else

Pittsburgh

As I prepare for my YAV year in South Korea, I first must reflect on what I have learned since graduating college. This past year I was a PULSE Fellow, working at the Three Rivers Workforce Investment Board (TRWIB) doing research and data retrieval/analysis.  I really enjoyed my experience and loved the city of Pittsburgh.  But I struggled at times.  In college, everything was structured.  I knew when assignments were due and how long it takes to complete them.  I could plan everything out.  It was really nice. But not always true in the real world.  I am very thankful that I got to serve in Pittsburgh and especially at the TRWIB. Here some key things I learned about work life and myself:

  1. Don’t have too many expectations for yourself. You get frustrated real quickly if you expect too much.
  2. Clear, consistent communication is important. Didn’t think I’d ever have trouble with this one.
  3. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Sometimes I got in my head I would just figure out the answer to a problem. But when more tasks arise unexpectedly, it’s better to ask how to do the task you’re working on and just get it done. Pride and ego don’t get results. They lead to frustration. Further, you may think you’re wasting other people’s time by asking them for help. But you’re usually not.
  4. Prepare for the unexpected. Things will come up that you can never foresee.  Be ready to roll with the punches.

And here are some things I learned about economic development and the non-profit world:

  1. Clear, consistent communication is important. (It’s true!) People working on the ground need to communicate the issues and challenges they encounter to the higher ups, who make the big decisions. Without proper communication, decisions are made that will not have the intended positive impact on the community.
  2. Money matters. I already knew this, but the bidding process for grants and funding can create a competitive non-profit system. The loser in this competitive system is often the community, which does not receive the best services or is not consulted about what they actually need before spending decisions are made.
  3. Change takes time. It certainly doesn’t happen overnight. But it also doesn’t occur over a year. Real change in a community starts by building strong relationships.
  4. Economic development problems and social justice issues are all tied to history. Racism, sexism, and religious intolerance exist because of historical events/concepts that shaped societal attitudes. Then laws/processes were put into place that reflected those attitudes, even if not obviously stated. The result is a system in which the haves and have nots of society are partially pre-determined. It doesn’t matter if the issue is housing, transportation, or education.   Finally, “them vs us” attitudes will not lead to any positive change.

This is from one experience in one city in the US. I’m excited to see how my work in Korea will add to or re-shape this list.

This blog will be a space where I ponder my world view, current events, and yes, share some cool photos.  I hope this blog  will be thought provoking and encourages discussion.  Feel free to comment!

Thank you to everyone who is making my experience possible. And to those who have supported me throughout my life.

Now let the adventures (and the blogging) begin!